Thursday, February 12, 2009

Happy Valentines Day!

Guess it's time for my intro. I'm Janet Lee Barton and I'll be posting on the second Thursday of the month. I'm a wife, mother, grandmother and author, and I feel blessed with all the Lord has given me. I write Christian Romance, both contemporary and historical, so contributing to a Romance Blog seemed a good thing to do.  You can find out more about my writing by visiting my web site .

I'm married to a wonderful man who is also my hero--most of the time, anyway. :) I think I'm the only blogger on Romance Your Spouse who is living with adult children and grandchildren. That's right. Two years ago my husband and I bought a house with our daughter and her husband. What were we thinking you ask? Well, to tell the truth, we all asked ourselves that question several times that first year. But things have smoothed out and it is working out great. Thankfully, we have a big house with plenty of room for everyone and our granddaughters especially love it. It works great for my writing life too, because I get to witness life at all ages and stages each and every day. :)

As you might imagine, getting time just for each other can present challenges for both Dan and I and for our daughter and her husband. It does take some thought and planning but it's always well worth it. With Valentine's Day almost upon us, I'm still not sure what we'll do yet. But I have been thinking back on some of the romantic times we've had and found that some of the most memorable ones were when we drove across town, or to a nearby town to have dinner. The drive there and back in the car seemed to lend itself to more conversation than when we normally 'go out to eat.' The drive gave us enough time to talk about the things that I'd think "Oh, I need to tell, Dan..." or he'd think, "I need to tell Janet..." during the day, but that was often forgotten during the busyness of each day. The drive over, the dinner, and the drive back gave us time to concentrate on each other and reconnect. We never minded the wait at the restaurant because it gave us more time together as did the ride home.  It wasn't so much about the meal or where we went, but that time together that seemed to make the next day, the next week, a little more special for us.

In today's world it seems so hard for couples to have time for that special time together, but whether it is a drive across town or even to another town, a long walk together or just an evening alone at home to give each other your undivided is something we all should strive to make time for. Hmm...maybe we'll try that this year!

Have a Happy Valentines Day!


  1. YAY Janet! I'm so glad you're with us! I agree completely with your suggestions: sometimes just being in the car, sitting on the couch talking or doing yard work side-by-side is just what the doctor ordered! Love having you here! Amy

  2. Lovely thoughts, Janet. Some of the best conversations my hubby and I have are as we work side by side on some project like weeding the flowerbeds or painting a room. Car trips are also a great time to catch up and talk about all kinds of things.

  3. Great post, Janet! You must be one of those Steel Magnolias to live in a three generation house. I think it's terrific that you can do that. Sounds like you and Dan have a wonderful relationship. My hubs and I are getting ready to put down a wood floor together in our den. The jury's still out on how that will work out. Will I be thinking romance . . . or murder?